What’s the big deal about being “in love”?

Like most people I am often swept away by romantic notions, and beautiful love stories…wait a second, that was me before I was married.

Don’t get me wrong here, I love my husband and am very happy with our relationship. I am just thinking of how different our relationship is now than when we started dating. Back in the “falling in love” stage. We have now reached the “deciding to love” or “recognizing our cooperative potential” stage.

Sometimes my husband looks at me and I can tell he still sees a little of why he married me. Sometimes I see him and feel like a teenager recognizing that this man is better than any other. That being said, there are a lot of times when we both seem more stuck together than happily united.

They say (and by “they” I mean the select group that determines how long you should wait before swimming or what you should wear in the springtime) that the “in love” stage of a relationship lasts about 2 years. Since this is a passing stage, I thought I should give some pointers on how to know when you are past this stage. So, here are some ways to tell if you are beyond this beginning phase of the relationship:

  • If you ask your husband if you are as pretty as _____________, and he laughs.
  • If your wife would rather you take the kids on a date than her.
  • If you can’t remember when you last shaved.
  • If your spouse/boyfriend/girlfriend is naked on the bed and all you can think about is the laundry or yard work.
  • When you realize that sleeping on the couch is not necessarily a bad thing.
  • When you start talking about what happens in the restroom.
  • If the only flowers you ever see are those in the garden or in home depot.
  • When other couples do some cute romantic thing and you think “just give it a few years”.
  • If you don’t even think about it when you loudly pass gas.
  • If you have been through everything and are still together.

If you are still in the “in love” stage, enjoy it while it lasts. If you have moved on to a deeper relationship, enjoy that and appreciate that you have a spouse who knows all about the real you and loves you anyway. To my husband, I love you and I’m glad you didn’t kill me when I ran through the garage (possible deal-breaker for immature relationships).

21 thoughts on “What’s the big deal about being “in love”?

  1. This was were I stopped reading. I will start again tomorrow and read some more. I have enjoyed every thing I have read so for.

    Just wait to you have been married longer than you are old as of now. You will have a few more things to add.

    Passing gas will no longer be a subject you talk about. You will be setting at a fancy restaurant and say something romantic like.

    “I sure hope all this cheese don’t stop me up. Want another glass of wine?”

    Great blog


    • That is funny. I can picture my husband and I having that dinner conversation. Hopefully by then my teenagers are out of the house, so they don’t have to be quite as mortified. Thanks for the comment!

  2. This post is absolutely hilarious and so true. I just found your blog and I love it. I also suffer from neurological problems and stumble around, rather than hobble.

    Keep up the good work. Best wishes to you.

    • Thanks. Since I broke my hip I have been using a walker and an electric wheelchair all the time. I guess I should change my name to “walkering and rolling” 😉 Best wishes to you too.

  3. This is an awesome entry. It brings to mind this quote:

    “When you fall in love, it is a temporary madness. It erupts like an earthquake, and then it subsides. And when it subsides, you have to make a decision. You have to work out whether your roots have become so entwined together that it is inconceivable that you should ever part. Because this is what love is. Love is not breathlessness, it is not excitement, it is not the desire to mate every second of the day. It is not lying awake at night imagining that he is kissing every part of your body. No… don’t blush. I am telling you some truths. For that is just being in love; which any of us can convince ourselves we are. Love itself is what is left over, when being in love has burned away…” (Iannis to Pelagia from Captain Corelli’s Mandolin)

  4. 😆 This reminds me of the time we had just replaced the garage door opener…… and the new one had a dangly thing hanging down (notice I said *had* :lol:)……. the very next morning, one of the kids closed the dangly thing in the door, and even though the door was open when I started doing out, it wasn’t completely open by the time I got there…… thank goodness I noticed it before we had major damage!

    You also know it’s love when, as part of your morning ritual to say good morning, you go down the checklist to see what’s hurting right now….. 😀

    • That is good you noticed before too much damage had been done. I wish I could blame part of our garage door mess on the kids, but that was all my fault. It is one of those things that would be okay if I was old old…well maybe not ok, but a little easier to explain. 😉

  5. If you think about love too hard, your head will explode. If you don’t think about it at all, your heart will explode. Glad I could be of help. Good, thoughtful post.

  6. These were funny and true. Also, if you’re popping things on each other. If the kids are away and you’d rather catch up on sleep than whoopie. When you no longer save the last of the ice cream or slice of pie for the other. Wow, one could really get carried away with these, huh?

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